You Can Change Your Story | Dr. Hanan El Basha
With Dr. Hanan El Basha
September 11, 2026video
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This clip emphasizes moving beyond blame to take control of your life narrative. Dr. Hanan El Basha suggests that while past experiences might have been challenging, realizing everyone did their best with what they knew allows you to shift from being stuck in blame to actively changing your trajectory and influencing your future for the better.
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Dr. Hanan El Basha (00:00)
I have to comment there is part of our source code, as you were saying, also embedded within it is the blaming factor.
Stefan (00:11)
Hmm.
Dr. Hanan El Basha (00:12)
I blame my parents. I blamed my partners. I blamed
Stefan (00:14)
You
Dr. Hanan El Basha (00:16)
society, culture, whatever it is. And I think part of the changing is realizing exactly what you said. Everyone did the best that they could with what they knew and who they were right there.
Stefan (00:28)
Absolutely.
Dr. Hanan El Basha (00:30)
could they have done things differently? Hell yeah. Yes.
But
Stefan (00:34)
Look.
Dr. Hanan El Basha (00:35)
what that being said, I am taking control right now and I can change
Stefan (00:41)
Exactly.
Dr. Hanan El Basha (00:42)
my story and I can change my trajectory and I can influence my son a little better than what happened before. Does that mean I'm doing a perfect job with him? Of course not. He will have his own.
small T capital T traumas, I'm sure. And
Stefan (01:00)
You
Dr. Hanan El Basha (01:02)
there will be a point where he will blame us for something. I'm sure too. But I'm still like kind of what Maya Angelou used to say is like, when you know better, do better. And I think that's the essence of it. We're just trying to do better. But you can't do better exactly what you said. If you don't know and you have to know, you have to go back and just
No, don't get stuck there because
Stefan (01:28)
No.
Dr. Hanan El Basha (01:29)
getting stuck there is the thing that kept me frozen for so long because I was stuck there, I was knowing, I was blaming, and I was doing nothing about it. Nothing's going to change unless you do. Unless you change, I call it kind of changing the parameters in the equation. Change the parameters to get a different result. If you're always going to be using the same parameters and wondering why it's not working,
It's because it's math. One plus one equals two. Okay, you can argue that a million times.
Stefan (02:02)
you
Dr. Hanan El Basha (02:03)
But you can change that for you and for your family.