Right Person, Wrong Time? | Wisdom Conversation

speaker-1 (00:00) I wanna talk about something that happened to me recently. Okay. basically I've met someone, alright? And I felt tell the bones that he's the right person. But the conditions weren't helping at all. Like we're so different, we're so distant, we're from different nationalities and everything. And we were trying to make it like happen but we like we we came to a dead end I could say. And this is like I could say it's situation of right person wrong time. And I'm having a hard time accepting this and since I'm an overthinker, an over feeler, oversensitive, I'm having like a really, really hard time currently because I cannot distract my mind or myself about this situation or like distracted from thinking about this or feeling I don't know what to do to be honest. I would like to hear your advice. speaker-0 (01:05) So how long how long were you trying to work it out together? speaker-1 (01:12) I say not a long time, but I mean like it could be a month or something. speaker-0 (01:16) Okay. But there were but you felt it. You felt the sparks, you felt that this was the speaker-1 (01:23) I've actually it was like a one time first time feeling I could say and I felt that it was real. speaker-0 (01:34) And are you did you say you're you're not living in the same place or you are? speaker-1 (01:40) We're not living in the same country, we're very distant from each other. speaker-0 (01:45) Okay. speaker-1 (01:48) Actually I wanna add something. Like it started as a virtual thing but we wanted to switch from the virtuality to reality as soon as possible, but then we found a lot of obstacles and we we we just like couldn't make it happen. Well speaker-0 (02:06) And what were those obstacles? speaker-1 (02:10) It's with the visa thing and it's with him coming to my country and like with our future plans and a lot of speaker-0 (02:21) Okay. So, you know, when you were talking and it it gave me this image of, you know, sometimes you know, we have these instances where we meet people and it's just like, wow, you know, the energy, everything was just like amazing. And and what I felt was the fact that You know, it's been a month, but how old are you anyway? speaker-1 (02:52) I'm sorry, come again. speaker-0 (02:53) Nahori. speaker-1 (02:55) I'm twenty four years old. speaker-0 (02:57) Okay. So and I'm just curious, you know, were you looking for this? speaker-1 (03:06) No, that's exactly the like the pun that like made me over attached I could say because I wasn't looking for this, I wasn't pursuing anything. speaker-0 (03:16) Okay, great. So where were you what were you doing? Where were you going when this you know, where you know, what are you doing at this present moment before you met online? speaker-1 (03:28) Like what am I doing in my general life? speaker-0 (03:31) Yes, yes, yes. speaker-1 (03:34) Well actually I'm I'm a dentistry student. I'm about to graduate and yeah. what am I doing currently in my life? I'm just like hustling, working, that's all. Like trying to like improve myself, trying to do a lot of things. speaker-0 (03:54) Great. And you know, what was the plan after you, you know, graduate, what what was the plan? speaker-1 (04:03) in which aspect? speaker-0 (04:06) working. speaker-1 (04:09) Yeah, yeah, for sure. my plan is to work like is to build a job here, I mean. to work as a dentist and then to do an entrepreneurship like like an online business. and yeah, I have a lot of plans. I mean speaker-0 (04:27) Nice, nice. So, you know, sometimes life deals this card that you feel is unfair, but actually it's it has a reason for it that you are on this journey, that you have these goals, and you know, literally, you know, life says no, it's not the right time. You carry on, you carry on on this journey. And the thing is, you know, with this journey of yours, what you might find, I can't guarantee. But you know, you've met someone that you know you feel very close to, that you there there was a connection, and you know, you never you will never forget that. And you know, but you stay focused on where you're going because the way things will move or might move is the fact that with you carrying on with your journey, because if you think about where you are at this present moment, you know, you're not You're not funding yourself. You're not sufficient in a way to, you know, dictate how how you can live your life. You're literally, you know, you're taking the steps. You know, you're you've got your education. Great. You know, and now is to get yourself a job and entrepreneurship. And you don't know where that's gonna go. You know, you've got your whole life ahead of you. And life, the way it sounds, is like, no, no, no, it's too early. Too early. Okay, we've given you a little snapshot. of potentially might be the right person, might not be. But we want you to carry on on this journey of yours. We you don't you don't need any distractions. speaker-1 (06:06) Marquis, can I sell it tell you something? speaker-0 (06:08) Absolutely. speaker-1 (06:10) Yeah, to be honest, I have a lot of ambitions. I'm a very ambitious person. I have dreams and everything, but I'ma be honest with you. My ultimate goal in this life is like to build a family and to have like speaker-0 (06:23) I hear you, I hear you, I hear you, and that's great. You keep that. But at this present moment you need you don't need any distractions. And also I want to ask you, have you do you know you know, do you take care of yourself? Do you know who this person is that's literally, you know, running the show? speaker-1 (06:50) By caught. speaker-0 (06:53) Just in general. Just in general. Do you look after yourself? Do you are you in control of that little voice in your head? speaker-1 (07:02) not all the time, but I try my best and I think I'm stable at a bit. speaker-0 (07:10) Okay, so that's what I want you to do. This is your time to literally because you're gonna you're gonna face some challenges and you're gonna have a rough road ahead, you know, with everything that you want to do. So it's important that you get to know who you are, who who is in the driving seat. Is it you or are you still on autopilot? Is it the ego that wants all the shiny objects? Wants this, wants this, wants this, wants this. It's good. Time now for you to check in with yourself to learn about yourself because you're you should be in the driving seat. You determine where you're going, what you want to achieve, but on your own accord, on your own terms. Not what this is saying, not what other people are saying that you should do and what you're all about. You should know who you truly are. speaker-1 (08:02) So basically you're just telling me like to to use this chance to get to know myself more and get in control of myself more. speaker-0 (08:11) Absolutely, and the the more you do that and the more you focus on your course of where you're going, then you will decide whether this person that you've initially met is the right person to be on your journey. Because at at the moment it's you know, it it could be part of your autopilot, it could be part of your ego, but is it really the true you that's moving forward? speaker-1 (08:41) I get it. So sh I should just let it go. speaker-0 (08:47) No, I you know, you can keep it there, you can put it on the shelf, you know, you can, you know, keep in contact, you can, you know, be curious. You know, that's the beauty of social media now is that, you know, where before, you know, if we met someone and they were living in another country, that was it. Probably send a letter is stuff like that. Now you're literally, you know, still can be in contact. But be the observer, be the person to you know See each other on you know, be happy for each other on each other's journey. Keep in contact. It's hard. I of course it's hard. This journey isn't gonna be easy. This journey isn't gonna be easy. But you want someone in the future to be by your side that is literally, you know, by your side supporting you all the way. But it's gotta be on your terms. speaker-1 (09:41) I get it. Anyway, thank you so much for your precious advices. I appreciate it so much. speaker-0 (09:50) Hey, I'm here. I'm here every single day, so please keep in touch and I'll I'll be your support network as well. speaker-1 (09:58) I will, I will. Thank you so much. speaker-0 (10:00) Right. You take care of yourself. You too. Bye bye.